As alluded to in the previous post, I’m going to start discussing a topic I have been avoiding for quite some time.  It’s not that I’ve ever shied away from discussing pornography with anyone, I’ve just been uncertain on whether or not I wanted Google in on the discussion.

I haven’t exactly been bragging to my clients about how my wife and I are separated.  But the other day I was at one of my client’s home and we were talking about family, church, and life in general and I confided that my marriage has been struggling and we’re currently separated.  He was quite shocked and asked probing questions because he thought Marian and I were strong Christians and was curious how she could even be considering a divorce.  The fact is, Marian believes that pornography = adultery = divorce OK.  (I don’t agree with this and may expound on this in a future post).

Everyone who reads this blog because you know me and Marian haven’t learned anything new here, but to those who found me through more random means, now you know more about why Marian and I have been separated and why I’ve been posting about Job and other topics while still being somewhat vague. And just for you, here’s the short bio relative to this topic.

I discovered pornography at an extremely young age [no] thanks to family members.  I shared my find with a close friend who then taught me about masturbation because I wasn’t smart enough to think of such things on my own.  That started an addiction that I have never been able to control long before my marriage, long before puberty even.

I imagine this is no huge revelation to people.  Most of the guys I’ve talked to are struggling with the same problem and most of the women I know assume this about every guy.  Even so, it’s funny how little people ever want to talk about it (myself included).  Then there are those like xxxchurch.org that I think talk a bit too much about it and seem to be rather obsessive.

But anyway, secret is out and I will be sharing more along the lines of what God is doing in my life and how he is bringing me to victory over all sin and into a transformed and sin free life.